At our appointment we scheduled the 20-week ultrasound. Wahoo!! I am so excited for a couple of reasons:
- We get to see a picture of our precious baby again (haven't seen him or her since 8 weeks) and
- It is only 2 weeks between appointments this time, not 4 like usual. Two weeks after the ultrasound we go back for another prenatal. Which means we basically get 3 appts in one week rather than just one.
I bet you were thinking I was going to say "because we get to find out if it is a boy or girl." Wrong! Hehe. As you might have heard, we are not finding out the sex of the baby. I wanted to take the time to explain why we are doing this because it is baffling to some people :)
Every time somebody asks me when we get to find out the sex and I tell them we aren't, they look at me like I am crazy and immediately say: "YOU, of all people, aren't finding out?" If you know me well, you know I am the planner of all planners, Type A to a T and don't feel my life is in order if everything is not organized, labeled and stored properly.
I always have plans, I always have lists and I always want to feel prepared. But for some reason, this is the one thing in my life I am not worried about planning. Odd I know! Don't get me wrong - I am researching and learning everything about this pregnancy and planning for everything AFTER the baby arrives, but I just don't feel like this one part needs any planning. Even if I knew what I was going to have, I wouldn't do a pink or blue nursery - it would have always been neutral. Plus gender-specific clothes can be bought after the birth. Maybe this will make me buy the things that are necessary and not just cute outfits all the time.
As a kid, the one thing I knew for sure that I "wanted to be when I grew up" was a mom. It took me a while to find a career path I thought I might be good at but I always knew having a family was my first priority. And as long as I have known that, I have also known that I didn't want to find out the sex of the baby. I never thought I would find out before. I absolutely love surprises! Any kind of surprise, small or large, gets me excited and giddy and this might be the biggest surprise of a lifetime so why not take advantage? This might be something that we never get to do again and I think it will make the birth moment even more special and thrilling. So far, all I can imagine about that day is Ryan walking into the waiting room - where I am sure we will have dozen of family members waiting - and pronouncing "It's a ____!"
And if you are wondering, my husband is also a planner and it took a little convincing before he agreed not to find out. He knows how to make me happy.
Now, after saying all that, I don't have a strong feeling one way or the other. Ryan has said a girl from day one. Today I am agreeing with him but that is probably because we can agree on 100s of boys names but not a single girls name.
After taking a gender predictor "test" it said our baby is 53% likely to be a girl. That's sure helpful! The symptoms that I am experiencing below support both sexes:
- heart rate above 140
- craving sweets (not salty snacks)
- craving fruits
- face breakouts
- colder feet than normal
- no nausea starting in the 2nd trimester
- growing chest
- husband has a brother, not a sister
As you can see - it is basically split down the middle between girl and boy. And of course we would be ecstatic with either. I feel like I know boys better but if we have a girl, she will have Ryan wrapped around her little finger for eternity, not to mention her grandpas and uncles.
Sooo...that is my reasoning for not finding out the sex - I love the suspense, excitement and surprise and am throwing all planning out the window. It is a once in a lifetime opportunity and I am taking it!